honest advice from honestly nice people
Here I am, and there you are. I am what you will look forward to (hopefully) after your first two years at Baylor University. The following letter will never come to you, but it is filled with things that I wish I had known then that I do know now.
So you’re going to college. Look at that. This is something you have always dreamed of doing and now you get the chance to! With all that excitement, you’ll learn the hard way that college sucks sometimes, but there is a silver lining. Before you embark on this new chapter of your life, there are a few things I would like to tell you and prepare you for now before it’s too late.
First, boys in college are exactly what you think they will be. Except for the fact that you’re at a Baptist university and so some ideals that were fed to you by family and movies will be a tad different. You’ll meet some boys, and then you’ll learn what ghosting is. Don’t take this personally; you’re a lot to handle but don’t forget that you are not the value others place on you. You are beautifully and wonderfully made and boys are not yet worth your time. They won’t be until many, many months later and several attempts of finding your “one”. This will not happen to you yet, so focus on your schooling and let the right boy come when the time is right.
Second, you will not do well in classes you never did well in. Math and science will still kick your butt and you will call Mom crying and asking her what you’re supposed to do. She’ll tell you the same thing I’m telling you right now: your grades do not define you, so just finish with the best you can. College is hella hard and it is not worth the tears. You’ll change your major at Christmas, and it will change your life. Your new major will be a much better fit and you will be so much happier. I know for a fact that the stress of pre-vet is not worth it for something you may not even get accepted in to. Go for the law school degree instead, but still know that some classes will never be easy for you. Like Spanish, it’s not easy and you will get frustrated and angry with the fact that you can’t remember all the random words that come around later in your minor career. You will get through it.
Third, don’t be afraid to be weird and nerdy. You are you, and no one knows you better than yourself. You know what you like and what you don’t so just enjoy yourself. You will meet a wonderful group of people who you will learn to lean on as times get harder and you don’t know what you’re doing. These people will accept you for all of your quirks and randomness and will be random with you. You will go on adventures with these people, and even stand in a wedding for one of them. Don’t be afraid to let these people into your bubble of insecurities and issues because they will show you what you that you are worth every moment they choose to spend with you. Allow yourself to call them your best friends.
Lastly, it will be okay. Freshman year will kick your butt in the end, but you will survive. There will be extreme highs, and painful lows. You will learn the hard way that being away from home is the worst feeling ever. You will yell and scream and want to drop out and say “Screw it I’m going home” but you will know deep down that you want to finish. Your motivation and dedication will push you through the hardest of challenges. You are amazing and you are enough and you can get through your first year even though your GPA will try and tell you otherwise.
So, be weird, be awesome, be wonderful, but always be you.
Love and luck,